An Abode

There is a place, lonely and blue; haven't been there, but keep searching through;
A place that has a story my mind contemplates, a simple story, let me narrate it to you!

The place was rocked by a star once upon a time;
A man, though a stranger, yet determined to explore its troughs and crests prime..

The man said,"Ah! What a world beyond the landmark, I’m flummoxed! Oh, princess of the abode,
would you allow me to create in here, my own road?"

The princess was a solitary damsel, a landlady of the gigantic territory,
Unaware of her own land, but closed to let anyone explore it merry...

The lady was a philanthropist, a woman kind and benevolent,
"Alas!", she said to herself," its closed, but how do I resent?";

For the eyes of the traveler spilled oodles of honesty, and his heart spilled inquisition;
His hands flaunted responsibility, to handle her abode with care and precision..

Each time he entered it, he would want to explore the abode deeper;
So much he contemplated its adornments, yet so right with his conviction and vigour...

The lady, flabbergasted with his colorful spirit, slowly released the abode colossal;
To allow his venture, through crests and troughs, through valleys and many a tangle...

He traveled in, explored the land, awed her with its secret space;
All that was alluring, all that was adventurous, all that had a childlike vigor and grace...

The man, with his taste so pertinent, became a polestar of the abode;
exploring each corner, each space; had made him a seeker bold!

Time rolled by, minutes leading to hours, and hours leading to days;
the inquisitive traveler kept dwelling, and cruising the abode like a maze!

The princess was startled,"Ah, so long, the traveler has been in; the man seems here to stay!
The territory is mine, but a man so true; should I allow him another day?"

Prompt came the reply, from inside the abode;
"Lady! Allow him for another day!"
The princess agreed, and days turned to months, but she enjoyed his presence gay!

Soon the man, with his art of certitude; converted the abode's crests and troughs,
to what I would certainly call contagiously endearing latitude!

The princess blew with ecstasy,
to see the abode of her fantasy;

"What magic, pray traveler, did you spill here?"
"Nothing, dear lady, would you believe, just unfurled its beauty mere!"

The traveler seemed like a cupid to her, a cupid that brought in cheer,
lovely hues of scarlet and gold, that sparkled bright and clear!

Time flew by, and the lady bestowed charge, to the man who shone so veracious;
"I needn't worry, I have a knight, who will protect my land precious.."

Little did she know, that a traveler is a traveler, do gypsies ever dwell?
Soon came the day, when his knapsacks packed, and he bid the abode farewell...

The traveler left, for another desination, to explore things interesting and new;
The princess caught unawares, and she started searching him all through...

Her search ended in vain, and she was lost; off fell a pearl down her cheek;
"I surrendered him the abode, but he left abrupt,
Ill let no one ever seek!"

Solitary she keeps her empire so astounding, lest the explorers depart,
Delicate as a petal, pristine as dew,
The abode is her own heart!
Composed By: Me:)

A useful note for becoming a person...

I came across a book titled "Better time management" a few days ago...apart from other things I learnt something very useful to me which I would like to share in this blog..

The difference between assertiveness , aggression and non-assertion...

Aggressive behavior:
If you:
1. Deal with the issues in a "I win you lose manner".
2. Magnify disagreements and play down agreement.
3. State your opinion as a "fact".
4. Insist on the rightness and won't discuss opinions.
5. Dismiss other people's ideas/opinions/values as worthless.
6. Deal with differences of opinion with sarcasm and hostility.

Non Assertive behavior:
If you:
1.Dismiss your ideas/virtues/opinions as worthless or less important than others'.
2.When you don't openly disagree but don't do what the other person now expects you to do.
3. When you express anger or hostility indirectly through acts of sabotage rather than openly.
4. When you express your views apologetically.
5. when you don't make decisions coz you might hurt/offend someone.

Both the attitudes are clearly depicting extremes. Another attitude which lies between the two and, to me, is the best course of action.

Assertiveness:

Assertivenesss means understanding your rights and standing up for them without infringing the rights of others.

You are being assertive when you:

1. Accept that both you and others have rights to their own opinions/ideas/values, and that these may be different as well...
2.... and that sometimes they are not right or wrong, but simply different.
3. Can express your honest opinion without it leading to a conflict.
4. Can disagree with others and have them disagree with you without it leading to a conflict.
5. Believe in your own self-worth.

I choose to be assertive...lets see how far I go!!

Forced by the world...to be someone else!

There is something in me, a special affinity for children...I feel they are the purest beings on earth..a true reflection of you, me and everyone when we were created and sent to this battlefield...
There is sure a child in me even now..A child who wants to accept every person she comes across as a "nice" person...full of virtues...particularly harmless..

But unfortunately we, who call ourselves "adults" have adulterated this heavenly environment..There are selfish people, who teach you to be "selfish" lest you lose the everyday battles..(Well of lately I have settled on the fact that its not bad to be "selfish"- thanks to ayn rand)..Then there are people who take advantage of your genuinity..Play with it like a toy and always take your goodness "for granted"..So much so that you literally have to run for your life, protect yourself and all that lies within...

The winners are those who look after themselves before anyone else, think about themselves before anything else...Well I certainly don't oppose that school of thought ;but it hurts me to see individuals who go out of their way for others to be ultimately the last ones to complete the "blind" race and be termed as "foolish" by the so-called winners.

These things keep killing the child in me...a child who wants to remain innocent forever, who wants to see things as they are..who wants to love unconditionally like a child, laugh carelessly ,cry away the pain, paint beautiful dreams, pray to God not for favours but because he created me, be convinced of having people around who genuinely care, and never keep a grudge against anyone...

But true as it is, this is too much to expect from a world like this...Keep protecting yourself from people and their ill intentions, "dont" love selflessly, you never know when you would be taken advantage of.Keep judging everyone all the time,you never know what he/she must be upto , "dont" be innocent coz that would make you "foolish"..

Too much to extract from the child in me!

I wish I were a kid...

A discovery in my life...

Eureka! Eureka!!

Well..that was just a flaunt...but guess what...there's something I have actually discovered about life today...through a not-so-welcoming incident though...

And my discovery goes like this-

"Everything in life is a matter of choice."

Any action , any decision, comes with a choice that is bestowed upon us.The consequences to the actions are not a matter of choice though.But again, our reactions to the consequences are a matter of choice.
So if you want something to go right, try to make the respective choice...If the choices you make go wrong, never mind..coz they are eventually teaching you how to make correct choices...

But take full responsibility of having taken an independent choice...Make sure that at the end of the day , for all the wrongs that you do , YOU are answerable to yourself...That even eliminates the chances of playing the blame game with others...

So...make right choices at the right time!!

And transfer your kingdom of dreams into reality!!

Like a Butterfly...it flies away....

Where's it going???

I left it on the couch a moment back...and look...here it disappears..in front of my eyes...Is it magical? I wish I owned it and I sware...I wouldn't have asked for anything more...

But I guess that marks the thin line between manliness and godliness...even the god inside us as they say lets it pass by hands down...All I know is that I am its slave..and striving hard to be its master...

Well if you are wondering what I am talking about..do not coz therez only one thing in the world the power of which has stolen the might of the greatest of human beings on this majestic planet...I am talking about time...

What makes me so very pensive about it is the fact that I woke up in the morning with big plans in my head...just like every other day...and today at midnight I sit back and introspect...there weren't any classes today, and I sure dream big ; there were a lot of
things I wrote on the charts...but hey, the time's just not there!! It just vanished...

At times I think, maybe its not completely wrong to think that each one of us has a limited time with us, strangely the value of which
we ourselves don't know...
This thought haunts me and all that my heart chants is ; God- all I want is the happiness of having lived each day fully and to my content. I know the word 'content' is rather weird coz this word does not prevail in the dictionary of a person...especially dreamers...

Its 1.30 am and soon another world would embrace me in its arms...But when I wake up tomorrow, the same old dreadful feeling of the unfinished tasks of yesterday would add to the next day's chores...and it would keep happening over and over.
The fact remains- the dread isn't the solution...time has a mighty flight; certainly out of my reach.

All I strive for now is that I am able to grasp the invaluable lessons taught by the ticking clock so that I dont have to revert to the same lessons over and over and waste this precious time!!

But certainly, a dreamer can never get rid of her whims and fantasies..I have a dream of living each breath to the fullest...of keeping my soul happy...of minimising the regrets and maximising my inner happiness...

I dream of 'living' in my dream world...in the short span that I have...I hope my dream comes true some day...Hmm so, well, that sets me on a Big Task then!!

So Mr. Time....would you excuse me please???

A genre to commence the journey...

Well finally the words found a way out of my personal diary onto the net!And I am a blogger...
Let me embark upon this blog by reincarnating myself, my life and my passions...

Let me start off with a very famous n well said quote by Mr.William,
"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts."

I am, just like many others, a young soul trying to explore the implications and manifestations of all the roles that I am playing on this mighty stage...that of a daughter, a student, a friend, a sister, and most importantly a learner...Many more other important roles yet to be played by me..I guess the list will keep growing..

My life..revolves around an aesthetically good looking campus and a beautifully built hostel; and more importantly among a set of friends galore..This life undeniably has its own charm and flip sides as well.But it is here that I have realised the bounty and chroma of the most intimate relations by staying apart from the subjects..

I still remember when I was a kid the number of arguments and nags I used to have with my parents, my brother and my best friend back in school.But when I left home, came to stay here, i realised that a single phone call from Daddy or Mummy or brother, a single piece of communication with the childhood friend, the filling up with ardent emotions of my grandma when she hears my voice..it all beams up my day.And I have realised that there are some relations which define me..and are inseparable from me...

Sometimes my thoughts trail down to a few years back.The cute feeling of coming first in class to grab the little performance shield and exhibit it proudly in front of my parents, the climbing up on the terrace just to see the sunset, the making of cards and writing verses for my pallies on friendship day, the naughty hen-pecks of my elder brother, the and most beautifully the dream of being the top singer, orator, dancer, piano player, writer and academic performer all at the same time!!

Big dream...like the stars above; but the clouds of practicality have overshadowed all the small and exquisite things which are close to my heart..Thoughts are intense.
But the situation at present is more described by this: My words fly up, my thoughts remain below. Words without thoughts never to heaven go.
I hope my thoughts gain buoyancy some day... :)

I came across a book a few days ago; The 80-20 principle; which has depicted an 80-20 relationship in the inputs and outputs in all spheres of life; right from a managerial problem to a relationship..something like 80% of your felicity n happiness is governed by 20% of the people in your life..also that we spend 80% of our time doing only 20% of the things that are meaningful to us as persons belonging to the age and freternity where the dreams soar high...
True..isn't it.

The application of solutions to maximization is where the job gets tricky.. :D

Nevertheless I am set thinking..that but once a person is blessed with this lovely gift of life..why not ornament it with the core " me "..who is not afraid of tomorrow,who does not brood over yesterday; but lives completely in the today..explores and enjoys the smallest of gifts which hide the largest of happiness inside...

I wish to break that cocoon someday...and fly free...